Thursday, November 12, 2009

Help my Husband is obsessed with Tattoos?

My husband wanted one tattoo on his chest (upper right hand sid)of a scorpion and some Chinese letter saying the meaning of his name, he said it was the only one he wanted and he was happy. Three months later he says that his chest is unbalanced and he wants another one on the upper left part of his chest and he gets a dragon with some Chinese lettering that had some Martial Arts saying because he is a 2nd degree black belt in tae kwon do. Now he says he wants a back tattoo I feel like this is getting obsessive and I hate when people over do it on tattoos, and I have told him that, and now he is acting like I am holding him back.

Help my Husband is obsessed with Tattoos?
First something about the whole process is additive. That being said, its not like he is making you get matching ink. If I were you I would let it ride UNLESS he wants to do something stupid like get his face or hands tattooed. Basically if it can be hidden by clothes then what is the problem? Eventually his obession will end (or he will run out of skin). In life you have to pick your battles......are you sure this one is worth fighting?





Rider (inked and wanting more .....but waiting)
Reply:in all reality its not your body, its his. thats basically how i see it. your supposed to love him for the person he is...... so why does the fact that HE wants tattoos on HIS body bother you so much? its not like he's making you get them.
Reply:It is his body honey. Let him do what he pleases. My fiance is covered in tattoos. I think I'll survive. Just let him get more tattoos. He'll get bored with it eventually.
Reply:Since when has what other people put on their bodies been anyone elses business but their own? I understand where your husband is coming from, the art of tattooing is beautiful and it is hard to just stop at one or two... if it is making him happy and he is content with it why would you want to try and stop him. Perhaps you could share ideas together and come up with some wonderful tattoo ideas.
Reply:3 tattoos is OBSESSIVE? wow.





good for him. as long as he can afford it, and is taking care of his family, then why are you freaking? let it go.
Reply:I know you are his wife, but it is HIS body and if he wishes to have more tattoos then it really is his decision. Tattoos can be addictive as they make you feel so liberated, but holding him back could let resentment creep in and that's a horrible thing to deal with. My mother hated my tattoos as well until I encouraged her to see what I see, that they are an art form, my skin in the canvass and I decorate it with pieces of art.
Reply:the fact is that tattoos are addictive. many people say one tattoo and end up with a body full. you really need to decide together what to do about it. you should try to keep an open mind and realize that your idea of "overdoing it" and his are probably completely different. i'm sure you would think that i have overdone it but... i would disagree with you. my husband and i have had some issues with tattoos. he has had some reservations about tattoos that i have wanted to get but at the same time he has just as many tattoos as i have and he has gotten them in places that he has expressly asked me not to get them which seems hypocritical. we have talked things out and come to a compromise which is what you and your husband need to do.
Reply:Not to be blunt, but it's not your body and it's not your decision. It's not like he's forcing you to get matching tattoos or anything.





As much as I agree with you about people overdoing it with tattoos and getting things that have little or no meaning to them and only getting things that they think looks cool, I don't think you're in a position to tell him what he can and can't get. At least he's getting them in places that can be easily covered by a shirt.





By the way, you probably should have been prepared for him to want more. The general consensus is that after the pain and/or shock of your first tattoo, it becomes addicting and you want to get more.





And no offense, but you kind-of ARE holding him back. If he already knows how you feel, there's nothing more you can do, so deal with it.
Reply:...sorry, that's the life of a 'tat' man, one is never enough!

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