Tao says dont resist, dont use force. Putting this into psychology, I dont see how we can improve ourselves?

I recently learnt about Tai-Chi, a Chinese martial arts which says dont use resistance or force against your opponent. I have tried to apply the same in psychology and found out a similar thing. The subconscious bounces back the efforts of conscious if you force things onto subconscious. Then how do we make any real progress without forcing ourselves. Do we have to let fate choose what we are? I observed that, to acheive something I had to force myself, though I sometimes give up. But without force I absolutely dont see how I can improve myself?

Tao says dont resist, dont use force. Putting this into psychology, I dont see how we can improve ourselves?
Let's say there's You, and there's an Opponent. IF you want to improve yourself, why do you have to fight or resist a force which is NOT in you, namely, the opponent?





This is how you do it: There's you on one side, and your opponent on the other side. You improve yourself in the middle. don't take sides, use them. Find your balance between them.





The Mandarin term "tai chi chuan" literally translates as "supreme ultimate fist" or "boundless fist," but may better translate to "great extremes boxing," with an emphasis on finding balance between two great extremes.





Good luck!
Reply:You got it. Good for you. One day, when you conquer them, you will see that they were actually your friends. By the way, I assure you I don't want to scare you, but in reality, they are infinite, not just two. And yes, they're all very friendly!0!





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Reply:Absolutely right. Sometimes we have to force an issue onto ourselves, thus onto our subconscious and it will create quite an internal shiitstorm. Abject passivity is a nice concept when you're stoned on opium, but in real life you have to use force all the time, even to shovel snow or cut up carrots for dinner. And sometimes you have to boot someone in the backside to get them moving.





I used a chainsaw for a couple of hours yesterday. Those limbs weren't coming down by me accepting them philosophically.
Reply:Force is also another word for energy. Force isn't a bad thing, in that way. And you do use energy whenever you accomplish something. I think it would be interesting to think more about why you aren't supposed to use force against your enemy. I'll bet there is something to learn there.
Reply:Totally dependent upon your definitions of "improve" and "progress".
Reply:Live only in your conscious self..it is what matters. What you think ultimately drives how you act.
Reply:Perhaps it is because you are unwilling to accept that you are what you are.